In today's world it seems to be more and more difficult to find a good husband, right ladies! It seems as though marriages are ending sooner and sooner; one minute you see a couple and they seem to be madly in love, they get married, and in a year or two, or if you're fortunate three, the couple is separated. What goes wrong? What happens to that undying love they both had before they got married? Or was there ever love there at all? Many questions can be asked and I don't have the answers to them, however, I want to give you at least 10 things to look for and consider before you marry him.
Now ladies, I’m not going to state the obvious, yes you have to be attracted to him, and yes he has to be able to provide for you, etc etc, these things go without saying, so here we go!
1) He needs to be a man who loves God with all his heart and desires to do His will above all else.
See, a man whose heart is after God and only wants to do His will, will be a great husband. God instructs men in the Bible to love there wives as Christ loves the church…. That’s a tall order ladies. Do you have any idea how much God loves us? God takes marriage very seriously, and if a man’s desire is to do God’s will, he will understand the kind of covenant he makes when he gets married. Another thing you need to consider is that you are going to place your life under the submission of this man, you better be sure he’s submitted to God first, or your life could be very tough!
2) He has to be willing to wait for marriage before being intimate with you.
I know, I know, this one is not easy, for some of you it even seems impossible, but it isn’t. The Bible say's we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us; He can do it. Hear me ladies, if your boyfriend says to you, he loves you so much that he can’t wait and you are going to get married anyway…… run for your life. The Bible instructs us that sex is for marriage only, if he does not agree, you should not be with him any way, he’s a heathen.
3) He must be open and honest with you.
This one sounds simple enough right. Ladies you know those guys who always have to run off to help out a friend and you could never know the friends name or where he is going. Or the ones whose cell phone you can’t get through to, you can’t check his text? Hmm I wonder why? For some reason you could never go to his home to meet the family. The X girlfriend calls now and again and he has leave to help her out with something? She has nobody else she could call? Please. Or he has all these friends who just happen to be girls, and sometimes he hangs with them, but you can’t go to! Come on ladies.
4) Don’t get married based on a promise to change after marriage.
What you see now, is what you get! If he has personality traits that you can’t live with now what makes you think you’ll be able to live with it for the rest of your life, because most likely that’s what you’ll have to do. Think with me ladies, think about that thing or things that you just can’t stand about him, can you live with it for the rest of your life if you have to? Now don’t mistake me, once he’s in Christ he can change, as he grows in Christ. But you should not base your decision to get married to him on the hope that he would change.
5) Ladies, don’t mistake infatuation for love.
This initial “Infatuation Stage” leads most women into believing they have found their true soul mates. But once bad habits and behavior patterns show up with time, you lose the excitement and connection that once fueled your passion. It is at the point that you realize it may not have been love you were feeling at all. This is when the relationship starts to go downhill, and most times ends.