'Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: 'This is now bone of my bone And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.' Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.' (Gen. 2:22-24)
God has blessed me with a wonderful woman, Susan to be my wife. It is true for me when people refer to her as the better half. We met back in 1983, actually she was the first person I spoke to when I started my new job. We didn’t like each other too much then and little did we know that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together as one. A year later we became good friends and we used to go liming with other friends from the office. Eventually we became best of friends. Susan had a boyfriend that lived abroad. She and I were so close that I would usually drop her and pick her up from the airport. I would listen to her talk on and on about the good times they had together. One time her friend came to Trinidad and upon meeting him, I realized that this was not the person I wanted my best friend to spend her life with. In my mind his lifestyle was not good enough for her.
After about 5 years of being best of friends we decided that we should take the relationship a step further and we started courting. We did this for another 3 years before deciding to get married. Therefore, we knew each others faults very well and we were willing to work with it. In 1991 we tied the knot. We spent 3 years together and then we started to feel like something was missing, that is when we made up our minds that it was time for a baby. Our daughter, Sarah was born in November 1994.
Each marriage has it ups and downs. If yours does not, be prepared for it. As a married couple we had our fair share of problems which stemmed mainly from disagreements in many different things. Who to visit, what to eat, what to wear, why do this, when to go and where to go? To solve these numerous problems we had to learn the how? How to compromise was the best way to resolve our conflicts. There were times we felt that we had enough and we wished that we could go our separate ways. Thankfuly for us God created a situation in our lives, where we had to be away from each other for 6 months. Believe me, it must have been the worst period of our lives, we missed each other so much that we regretted all the time we wasted arguing and being unhappy with each other. We eventually realized that the things we used to argue about were so insignificant and we are able to look back at it now and laugh. This time away from Susan was so dreadful that it was the first time I was ever diagnosed with high blood pressure in my life.